Women’s Rights: Both Metric & Source for Global Improvement

Women’s Rights: Both Metric & Source for Global Improvement

I’m going to ask a favor of you. Please set aside everything you’ve ever thought about Hillary Rodham Clinton and her husband. It would be easy to let previous conceptions cloud your understanding here. Read/listen to this speech she gave at the U.N. earlier this month (link above). And then let me know what you think.

I am a woman. Some might call me a feminist, though I don’t entirely like all the ideas connoted by the term. I believe women should have equal rights to education and to employment. And yet, at this moment in my life, I choose to be home with my children in the most traditional of feminine roles.

However, when I think about women’s rights in a more global sense, I am reminded of how many rights I have. I have the right to choose whom I will marry, or not marry. I have the right to education: elementary, middle, high school + college and graduate school, if I choose. I have the right to medical care of my choosing. I have the right to seek employment and the right to promotion based upon my merits.

So many women around the world do not have what we, in the United States, consider to be basic human rights.

The thing that is fascinating about this article is that it takes the noble, but narrow, humanitarian goal of women’s rights and raises it a notch. No, Clinton’s perspective raises this issue to one of global importance. And she has given me much food for thought.

Clinton points out that the way women are treated in a culture is a metric for other things going on in that culture. Places where women are not treated well tend to be places that aren’t playing nice with other countries, that are making the world a not-so-safe place to be.

Clinton also points out that, not only is the treatment of women an indicator of other aspects of society and culture and politics, but that when women are granted voice and authority, they influence culture and society and politics in positive ways. Hmmm … food for thought.

Women in the classroom, calling all of us to understanding and tolerance. Women at the table, calling all of us to peace.

At its core, women’s rights is about choices. Right now, my choice is to be home. With my children. And for that choice, I am so very grateful.

[Thanks to @jennifercgrant at www.jennifercgrant.com for the link.]

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A Decision

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Some stories just need to be told backwards … because telling them frontwards is too difficult. This is going to be a little like telling you the punchline to a joke before telling you the joke (except it’s not funny at all). My husband always gets frustrated when I (inadvertently) do this to him. But I think this is the only way I can dig into this particular story.

Here’s the bottom line: I have breast cancer. On another day, I’ll tell you how I got here. But today, I’ll tell you about an important decision I’ve made.

After much research, prayer, and consideration, I believe I have arrived at a treatment plan for my ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS). In the course of my research, I came across an interesting statement by Dr. Monica Morrow, of the Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York City, formerly of the Northwestern Memorial Hospital Cancer Center in Chicago:

“‘You need to take the time to understand your options,’ Northwestern’s Morrow stresses. ‘If there’s ever a disease that’s worthwhile seeking a second opinion on, it’s DCIS.’” This was helpful confirmation for the path I chose to pursue.

During January and February, I met with medical oncologists and radiation oncologists at St. Alexius Medical Center in Hoffman Estates, Loyola University Medical Center in Maywood and Rush-Presbyterian-St. Luke’s Medical Center in Chicago, and consulted with a medical oncologist at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN. What has become clear is that the particulars of my situation make a decision regarding proceeding with treatment a bit controversial.

Discussions with the doctors, as well as my review of the literature over the past two decades demonstrate several assertions:

1. Local excision (lumpectomy) is the universally agreed upon first step in treatment. That’s good, since I’ve already done that : ).

2. Radiation following lumpectomy is considered standard treatment for DCIS.

3. Tamoxifen (hormone therapy) for 5 years is considered standard treatment for DCIS.

4. There are varying opinions and lots of research has been done and is being done to attempt to identify sub-groups for whom radiation and/or tamoxifen do not make a sufficiently significant difference to outweigh the the risks to either or both.

So, my focus has been on figuring out the ramifications of #4 for me, that is, could I be in one of the sub-groups for whom it would be reasonably safe to not pursue radiation or tamoxifen.

Of course, as you might imagine, the bottom line is that we don’t know and research is ongoing. But having weighed everything I have thus far, I’ve come to a decision to not do radiation, to give tamoxifen a try, and to proceed carefully with mammograms every six months for a while so as to keep an eye on things.

I’ll start tamoxifen in the next few weeks and may take it daily for as much as 5 years. Many breast cancer cells (including mine) receive a growth message from estrogen. The way that tamoxifen works is that it “‘pretends’ to be estrogen and attaches to the receptors on the breast cancer cells, taking the place of real estrogen. As a result, the cells don’t receive the signal to grow.” (www.breastcancer.org) Tamoxifen has the benefit of reducing my risk of ipsalateral recurrence (same side), as well contralateral occurrence (opposite side).

So, the next part of this journey begins. I feel confident in the information I have gathered and in the processing I have done to make this decision. Thank you for your prayers and advice. They have meant a lot to me.

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If you are living suburban family life, you won’t regret watching this video … especially if you love folk music and excellent female voices. I’d have posted this on Valentine’s Day, if I’d known about Lori McKenna then. Watch it!

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For Jeff

I had a friend in high school named Jeff Freeman. He was a sweet boy I’d known for years. We were in school together K-12, I think. We rode the bus
together and our families swam at the same pool in the summertime. As with
so many of these childhood friendships, I hadn’t kept in touch with Jeff

after high school. I recently learned that Jeff committed suicide on August 17, 2007. I am saddened … because of his journey of suffering and because of his family’s suffering … and because I didn’t know.

But now I do know.

Jeff’s little sister, Kyle, is embarking upon a journey of her own. If you
have a few moments, read about her journey here:

Kyle’s Letter

This summer, she plans to participate in the American Society for Suicide
Prevention’s “Out of the Darkness” 18 mile fundraising walk. Kyle’s story of
Jeff’s journey and her own journey in and out of depression is not unusual.
I told Kyle that I would share her story. For Jeff. For Kyle. For those who
suffer from depression and bi-polar disorder.

This is a really sweet story of a little sister who loved her big brother.
And it’s a story of a young woman’s journey to find strength to live and
thrive. If the story touches you at all and you’d like to help Kyle and
others who are touched by suicide, her letter has a link to donate. No
pressure. Just thought I’d let you know, in case you’re interested.

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Ellsberg’s Advice to Kissinger: Does knowledge impact how we perceive others?

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“>Ellsberg’s Advice to Kissinger: Does knowledge impact how we perceive others?

This article is fascinating to me on several levels:

1. Watergate

I’ve always been fascinated by this incident and time period in American history. I’ve written papers on it in high school (and, I think, in college). This advice from Daniel Ellsberg to Henry Kissinger is quite interesting. It gives me a very different sense of Daniel Ellsberg than I’ve had in the past. I appreciate the fresh perspective.

2. Leadership

Over the years, I have become increasingly intrigued by what it takes to be a good leader. Not every leader is willing to share their thoughts on how to do it well. To me, Ellsberg’s advice is a rare glimpse into a private conversation between two men whose names have become part of U.S. history.

3. Thoughtful, Reflective Observation

It strikes me that Ellsberg’s advice indicates a considerable amount of self-reflection and self-awareness on his part. To identify these sorts of subtle changes in observation and perspective about daily interactions is remarkable. We should each strive toward such insight. Though I am not convinced that it always happens, I remain hopeful that our leaders (political, clerical, social) are seeking this sort of clarity and insight about the work they do and their interactions with others.

4. Knowledge Impacts Perception

I think what strikes me most about Ellsberg’s advice is that he is identifying subtle changes that he believes occur in response to the amount of knowledge one has. To me, the most poignant statement from Ellsberg is, “And that mental exercise is so torturous that after a while you give it up and just stop listening. I’ve seen this with my superiors, with my colleagues … and with myself.” I can see how this would happen so easily. And yet, woe to the leader to stops listening.

May we each, in our small and large spheres of influence, cultivate listening skills based upon a sincere compassion and a desire to truly understand.

[Thanks to @ayjay for the Kevin Drum blog link.]

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"Warning: cape will not enable child to fly" & other thoughts on high risk childhood activities

“Warning: cape will not enable child to fly” & other thoughts on high risk childhood activities

I’m not exactly sure what happened to common sense. Was it somehow lost in the haze of ’60s &’70s drug culture? Or did ’80s litigators convince us that there was money to be had in law suits? It seems that somewhere along the way, parents have begun to think that their children are entitled to perfect childhoods, perfectly safe that is. And that something has gone dreadfully wrong when childhood isn’t perfect. And if that happens, there must be someone to blame.

And yet, behind every one of these warnings, every one of these law suits, is a family, a child with hurting (perhaps grieving) parents. What do we do with the hurt inside when childhood turns out to not be as safe as we had always hoped it would be?

[Thanks to @jennifercgrant (www.jennifercgrant.com) for the Post link.]

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Do our organs have memories?

Do our organs have memories?

This is a really intriguing article. We know that we think with our heads. We know that our memories (short-term & long-term) are somehow contained in our brain tissue. While living with this fascinating mystery is pretty cool, I am also hopeful that research will help us understand this phenomena better. Is it possible for cardiac tissue to contain preferences for certain kinds of food? How about certain kinds of music? In English, we traditionally think of the heart as the home of our feelings of desire and affection. This article brings new meaning to the exclamation, “I would absolutely LOVE a good steak tonight!”

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The Upside to Depression

The Upside to Depression

I am intrigued by this perspective on depression. I believe I have personally found it to be true and have also observed it in others. I have a little card on a bulletin board in my office that reads: “People with mental illness enrich our lives.” So true.

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Prior to the age of five, children appear to experience time in a different manner. They are perfectly capable of ‘forgetting’ events that they experienced a minute ago, as well as their mental state when the experience occurred. They seem to think associatively, closer perhaps to the hypnagogic state that one drifts into just before falling asleep, than to one that is ordered around a timeline with a past, present, and future. Gopnik attempts to penetrate what this different form of consciousness is like. She describes a ‘false belief’ experiment in which children see a closed candy box that, in fact, is filled with pencils: ‘The children are understandably both surprised and disappointed by this discovery. But then we asked what they thought was in the box when they first saw it. Although they had discovered the truth with great surprise only moments before, they still said that they had always known the box was full of pencils. They had entirely forgotten their earlier false belief.’ This is why young children are so perilously suggestible, and their testimony, in most cases, should be inadmissible in court. They have excellent detailed memories when they are cued to remember a specific event with a leading question, but free recall is alien to them because it is dependent on an internal consciousness that they don’t yet fully possess.

Prior to the age of five, children appear to experience time in a different manner. They are perfectly capable of ‘forgetting’ events that they experienced a minute ago, as well as their mental state when the experience occurred. They seem to think associatively, closer perhaps to the hypnagogic state that one drifts into just before falling asleep, than to one that is ordered around a timeline with a past, present, and future. Gopnik attempts to penetrate what this different form of consciousness is like. She describes a ‘false belief’ experiment in which children see a closed candy box that, in fact, is filled with pencils: ‘The children are understandably both surprised and disappointed by this discovery. But then we asked what they thought was in the box when they first saw it. Although they had discovered the truth with great surprise only moments before, they still said that they had always known the box was full of pencils. They had entirely forgotten their earlier false belief.’ This is why young children are so perilously suggestible, and their testimony, in most cases, should be inadmissible in court. They have excellent detailed memories when they are cued to remember a specific event with a leading question, but free recall is alien to them because it is dependent on an internal consciousness that they don’t yet fully possess.
What Babies Know and We Don’t – The New York Review of Books

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into the desert . . .

“Your journey begins on February 15, 2010.”

Wow. Sounds like Star Trek. Or a ride at Disney World. I’m intrigued. On this (Follow) Friday, I’d like to offer you a blog that I just discovered today. That’s a bit risky. I haven’t vetted it. I have no idea if it will be useful, enjoyable, entertaining … all those things we look for in a blog. But the premise intrigues me and the topic is time-sensitive, so I’m going out on a limb.

The Ladder is the blog of GOYA, the Greek Orthodox Youth of America. Here’s their latest blog marketing:

“take the 40 day lenten challenge: Your journey begins on February 15, 2010.”

Ok, you got me reading.

I’m not entirely sure when I first heard the word Lent. I grew up in a Protestant church, but we didn’t really do much with Lent. In college, I began attending an Episcopal church and discovered the tradition of this penitent season of preparation. For Anglican and Roman Catholic Christian traditions, Lent is the 40 days preceding Easter, that is, the 40 days (Sundays aren’t counted) between Ash Wednesday and Easter. My favorite, not-always-reliable, on-line, encyclopedic resource, Wikipedia, tells me this about Lent:

Christ Pantocrator, detail of the Deesis mosaic

The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer — through prayer, penitence, almsgiving, self-denial — for the annual commemoration during Holy Week of the Death and Resurrection of Jesus, which recalls the events linked to the Passion of Christ and culminates in Easter, the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.

In the Anglican and Roman Catholic traditions, Lent begins on Ash Wednesday, which is next week. The day before, of course, is Mardi Gras (Fat Tuesday) or Shrove Tuesday. In the Eastern Orthodox tradition, Lent begins on Clean Monday or Pure Monday, which is this coming Monday.

So, the Greek Orthodox Youth of America are beginning a lenten blog journey on Monday. If I follow it, their journey will be two days off from my church’s experience of Lent. But I have a feeling that there will still be something I can glean from their journey … into the desert.

Maybe you’d like to join us too.

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